I mentioned I had some vom-worthy Murray news, so here it is.
For those of you who are new readers, Murray was my boyfriend for three years. We broke up last May, but not before buying a house together, which I currently still inhabit and cannot sell. Murray lives in apartment that costs him less than half the house payment I have to dig up each month, so there’s already a leeeeeeetle bit of bitterness there.
A few months ago, Murray and his new girlfriend became Facebook official after about thirteen seconds of dating, which was like a 4″ heel kick in the boob to me because ever since the breakup, I’d tried to keep anything dating-related far, far away from The ‘Book. I posted no pictures and made no mention of any of the men I was dating, deleted any comments from friends that might have alluded to the fact I was seeing anyone, and I took my relationship status off completely (while Murray was, up until this point, still proudly declaring himself “Single”).
Fine. Whatever.
Then, a couple weeks ago, I was talking to a mutual friend of ours. This friend told me that Murray had turned down a great job offer in another city because he said things were “getting pretty serious” with his girlfriend. After TWO MONTHS of dating.
Chalk it up to the bitter, cynical bitch in me, but I knew that this was exactly what Murray was going to do. Settle for the next live woman who still had most of her teeth and showed any remote interest in him. Now, I’m not saying that this girl I haven’t spoken to in years may not have turned out to be a Saint of a woman with an ass you could bounce quarters off of who also makes a chocolate-covered dessert every night and gives 5-star BJ’s, but I know Murray. He’s a settler.
Also, this chick is 25, lives at home with her parents, and is a mother to a toddler.
(NOT THAT THERE’S ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT)
Part of the reason Murray and I broke up was because of his laissez-faire (let’s be lazy and see how we fare!) attitude. About EVERYTHING. It’s one thing to be laid-back, but it’s a completely different thing to just not Give. A. Fuck. Murray was prepared to just take whatever life gave him (provided it wasn’t hard and didn’t take any effort).
Everything except me, it seemed.
If I’d never brought up the fact that I was unhappy, however, we would have continued living our sad, boring lives until one or both of us died. So he did want to keep me around . . . he just didn’t want to work for it. And he didn’t want to get married anytime soon, either.
This caused me more pain than I should have allowed. I will admit that.
So our relationship ended, I dated several selfish assholes, and now here I sit, as far from marriage as one could possibly be. I’m totally fine with that.
And then I hear something that makes my blood boil.
Another mutual friend told me something that was overheard between Murray, his girlfriend, and her little girl recently.
The little girl called him “Daddy.”
DADDY.
Hear that sound? That’s the sound of me punching a kitten.
(Just kidding, OMG I would NEEEEEEEEVER do that . . . just thinking about that makes me want to punch anyone who would punch a kitten.)
I dated Murray for THREE YEARS and the word “marriage” made his skin crawl (WE ALREADY OWNED A HOME TOGETHER, REMEMBER?), and now some random chick is dating him for THREE MONTHS and he’s DADDY??!?!!!??!?!?
If you’ll excuse me, I have to go vom. Repeatedly.
Ultimately, though? I win. Because I don’t have to wipe snot off the face of someone else’s child. Ever.
Also I am way hotter than Murray’s girlfriend. Who has had the same haircut since birth.
WIN.







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April 22, 2009 at 12:34 pm
dcsunshowers
hahaha wow…i don’t even have words, your ex sounds ridiculous.
Best line ever: Also I am way hotter than Murray’s girlfriend. Who has had the same haircut since birth.”
Seriously, she has had the same haircut since I have known her. It’s not even a good haircut.
April 22, 2009 at 12:43 pm
chasingparadise
No effin’ way! She lets her child call him daddy?! HE lets her child call him daddy?! These people are fucking morons. First of all, that relationship probably won’t last, and they should be ashamed of themselves for confusing the hell out of her poor child. If/when things end between them, that kid is going to wonder what happened to her “daddy”. Not to mention her birth father? Ridiculous. I don’t want to vomit…I want to punch him for you!
And also? See a picture of this “since birth” haircut. LMAO.
Yeah, it was pretty infuriating to me that either of them is allowing this to happen.
Also, I shall have to send you a picture of The Mushroom Head. Heh.
April 22, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Just A Girl
I 100% love you for writing this. Because I felt like I was being so immature or whatever when dumbjerkface (my nickname for my ex) and I broke up but I know it’s not just me. It’s FUCKING HUMAN NATURE ftw.
Seriously, I’m angry at Murray for you. Because dumbjerkface moved his current gf to his number 2 spot on his top friends (and put me at 4) BEFORE we broke up. He never had to change his relationship status because he was “in a relationship” with her the day after he and I broke up. Literally. She also had pics of him and his house and the goddamn dog who STILL LOVES ME BEST under an album named “My New Home” before we broke up. But I’m way prettier than her, and she’s like, 12 so she can’t do anything cool like drink excessively when her boyfriend fucks her over.
Woah, I just got really pissed. Huh. So if you need someone to punch Murray for you, just for being a jackass, I totally will.
Wow. I think you may have me beat.
Damn social networking sites! They are HELL for breakups and dating.
April 22, 2009 at 1:07 pm
Matt
How about punching a dog? Would you punch a dog?
Absolutely not!
April 22, 2009 at 1:12 pm
Narm
What if a kitten punched another kitten? Would you then have to punch THAT kitten, and then in turn punch yourself for punching a kitten?
Status of my mind: blown.
April 22, 2009 at 2:09 pm
bloggingbarbie
as far as i’m concerned my darling,
EPIC WIN.
xo, bb
You won’t be hearing any argument from me on that one.
April 22, 2009 at 2:12 pm
lucklys
haha, narm’s comment is great.
but this guy sounds like a real winner. two months is hardly enough time to establish a non-biological-father/non-biological-child bond. they are obviously brainwashing the kid to accept whatever they want. sick.
It’s so bizarre. I just don’t understand it at all. This is not like him. Why do they go crazy after they leave us?
April 22, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Susie
I just found your blog via Surviving Myself and man do we have similar situations going on here, except my ex moved on to a lady with three kids. I’m going to have to agree with you and some of the others…we win. For sure.
Um, yeah. We are the lucky ones.
I get to stay up late drinking and pass out on the floor if I want to. Ah, the glamorous life!
April 22, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Princess Pointful
I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.
For reals.
I was in a 6 year relationship with the ex, in which he was a total lazy ass. Things were so damn stagnant, and we were still nowhere near the marriage, hell, even the “buying a couch” stage together.
And he just moved in with a girl after 2 months. WTF?!?!
God, men infuriate me sometimes. I don’t understand their logic. Oh wait, most of them have none.
April 22, 2009 at 2:33 pm
Mel
I found out via MySpace about my long-distance now-ex-boyfriend (after only a week after the “break up talk”) being in a relationship with in his girlfriend… who he moved from Michigan to Ohio.
I guess Cleveland to Cincinnati wasn’t far enough to be considered moving-in territory.
What an ass. You’re better off without that cuntnoodle.
April 22, 2009 at 3:22 pm
LiLu
I was pretty sure I loved you when I found you a few weeks ago.
But this?
“which was like a 4″ heel kick in the boob to me”
and this
“Who has had the same haircut since birth.”
just made me 100% positive.
*HUG*
April 27, 2009 at 12:30 pm
Beth
uhhh for at least the next 10 years of my life, the only place i want to hear the word “daddy” is in some dirty roleplaying.
and I’m with LiLu… “who has had the same haircut since birth” really just sealed the deal. great great line.
April 27, 2009 at 4:28 pm
k2
My cousin once dated a woman with a daughter, and he was in their lives for a good while. I don’t know what she called him, but it strikes me as weird that either of them would allow that in a new(ish) relationship. I really wonder what the kid thought when my cousin broke up with the mom.
Also, I noticed you have Hard Candy as one of your Netflix…I don’t know if you’ve seen it, but it’s really uncomfortable. Interesting, but it’s a little painful to watch. My roommate didn’t want to watch it with me (she’d already seen it) but did anyway, and halfway through she got up to take a shower because she didn’t want to see a certain part of the movie again. I don’t blame her.
April 28, 2009 at 9:47 am
Lost in Brooklyn
maybe Murray should not be a FB friend any more. because friends don’t kick friends in the boob.
even though NY didn’t work out, wasn’t he ultimately more fun/interesting/right-for-you than Murray? which, logic would have it, means there is a man out there who will have all the good of NY, and none of the bad, and beat Murray with his fists tied behind his back?
rooting for you in the hunt for NY+.
April 28, 2009 at 4:46 pm
shine
It doesn’t seem possible that we were dating the same person…but yeah. I know the type.
Mine broke up with me for absolutely no reason, treated me like shit (which, frankly, was nothing new) and now acts like I’m the bad guy because I don’t say nice things about him (sometimes publicly). I “hurt” him. Uh…yeah. Douche.
He found a new girl to after less than a month. They’re going to Mexico next month. Then he’ll probably rip out her heart and stomp on it because she totally thinks the relationship actually exists when it doesn’t. Or he’ll marry her, because that’s just the way shit goes, right?
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